Steve and Jessica Rold got a major shock when they picked up their daughter from daycare.

The workers suggested that they should consider dressing their daughter in dresses and hair bows so others would know that she was a girl. Steve admitted that most of his daughter’s clothes were hand me downs from her 2-year-old brother and wasn’t offended by the suggestion.

Jessica, on the other hand, had other opinions. The next day she brought her daughter to school with a blue hoodie and a bow drawn on a post-it note stuck to her forehead.