Are you or someone you know in a bad relationship but having difficulty finding a way out? It happens more often than you’d think. Break ups are hard, especially for the one being dumped but there is a right way to go about it.
As reported by a story in Time, relationship experts say there are four steps to to initiate the end of the romance and make it less painful.
- Tell the truth! Be honest.. just not brutally honest. There’s no need to list the 100 things that they do to drive you nuts. But you also can’t lie just to soften the blow or make it easier on yourself.
- Do it face-to-face! (whenever possible) In person break ups are by far the most considerate way to go. Just don’t go out in public, in case of an emotional scene.
- Be sure about it before you go there! If you are having any second thoughts or think there is still a possibility for a future, wait a while. Because once you say those words out loud there is NO going back. Plus you don’t want to lead them on with any left over feelings where they think they can win you back. If you are in an abusive relationship, don’t hesitate to get out immediately.
- If you are the one that broke it off, don’t keep checking back in to see if they are okay. It may seem like a nice and caring thing to do, but it can just prolong their pain and prevent them from moving on.
Chances are good that they are going to be very angry with you, So don’t force them to stay in touch at all. That will just give them false hope that time may bring you back together.
Relationships take time to build so its natural for a break up to take some time as well. Just be kind and precise, and make sure you really know what you want.